Ancient Self Help: The Art of Love

People may believe that self help is a new phenomenon or business model. But this is not true,  especially regarding matters of the heart.

The Art of Love

Ars Amatoria is a book by one of Ancient Rome’s most famous poets Ovid. Written around the second century A.D. This book may actually give some very familiar advice just based in an ancient contexThe Art of Lovet.

The book is in three parts, the first two parts target the male suitor and the last part is for females. I found it to be a very entertaining and informative read to say the least.

It has more advice for men than women. This may be because of gender roles, which have stayed mostly the same through the millennia, where romantic relationships are concerned. The male is the pursuer. The  first part is on getting the girl. The second part is on keeping the girl and the last part; mainly is to teach girls how to make themselves desirable.

Ovid’s Art of Love really shows how advanced socially the Ancient Romans were. Or on the other hand, shows how much people have not changed in over two thousand years.

For men; the book not only shows how to show interest towards the fairer sex, such as finding excuses to brush away “imaginary dust,” but also on grooming and hygiene and what places you can find her.

Places like the theater, the races or the circus were where single people went to find romantic partners. Also the beach and at the dinner table at feasts and triumphs in war( basically parades.) As you can see some of the places we meet today are different locations but fundamentally the same in principle. They were social gatherings to celebrate events. The same can be said of present day. People gather at sporting events or the theater as well as public celebrations such as parades or New Years celebrations. People also still gather at the beach.

The Art of Love also shows men and women how to behave in a relationship and how to act towards each other. It promotes lying  and deception on both sides. Men and women, telling men to fake cry and women to “make him believe he is loved.” I guess all is fair in love and war, right?

It teaches how to keep a relationship fresh. Telling men to “Let her miss you (but not for too long.)” And women to “Use jealousy and fear” to control your lover.

Ars Amatoria has good advice for men on remembering birthdays, complimenting her, using aphrodisiacs, not asking her about her age and not mentioning her faults.

This book advises having older and younger lovers for women. I believe that it makes the same assumption for men. To beware of “false lovers” or men with bad intentions(basically players.)  It teaches different sexual positions in a creative way in part three for both men and women and about generosity in making love for men in part two.

I really enjoyed reading this book. I did not get all of the references and had to look some of them up because of my unfamiliarity with some Greek and Roman gods and history. But the advice is sound in some parts and can really be applied to present day romantic relationships.

Even though The Art of Love was written more than two thousand years ago, it seems that not much has changed socially since then. Human society tends to go in a cycle on the way it publicly views sex and love; from a liberal view to conservative and back to liberal. But deep down, all the while, we never change…

Text Psychology

Text Psychology, What do you think?

About a decade ago, SMS text messages as a method of communication became  prevalent with the advent of more phones with QWERTY keyboards such as Blackberry’s and Sidekicks. Text Psychology is the study of the mind state of people when they text in different situations. (Text Psychology is a pseudoscience)

Text Psychology

I find text psychology to be an interesting subject. A subject that has not had much study. As communication evolves, the psychological factors behind the evolution and the sociological effects of text messages need to be studied.

Text messages, I believe fall somewhere on the spectrum of communication, between social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and actual phone conversations.

Texts are more personal than social media; because many people who would not think twice about accepting new friends on social media sites, guard their phone number diligently.  However, they are not as personal as a phone call because, lets face it, who has the time to call anymore? Just kidding..:)

They are not as personal because there are nuances in voice, such as tone, which can convey feelings not necessarily expressed in the actual words that a person is saying.  In other words; the way you sound when you are speaking to someone can be a bigger communicator than what you are actually saying.This is the main difference between

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SMS Text communication and verbal conversation. There have been times where I would text someone something and it may come across as mean when I may have been playfully teasing them. They could not tell that I was joking because they could not hear what I was saying or see my facial expressions.

There are studies that state that a mere 7% of communication is verbal with the rest being non-verbal. If this is the case then there is a major handicap to our natural means of communication in texting and even with emoticons much of the message may be misinterpreted.

In a text conversation a person has the ability to prolong response, a luxury not ordinarily afforded in a real conversation. This can be used by people as a power play in a conversation. Often times the last person to send a text will feel as though they are at the mercy of the recipient of their message because they are waiting on a person to respond and validate their conversation. Thus showing how important to the recipient the sender is .

In a verbal conversation in contrast with a text conversation there is little chance to think about what you are saying before you say it. Whereas with a text, email or other written communication you have the opportunity to think “Is this something that I want to send to this person?” But as stated texts are more personal than an email, but are way faster than a written letter.

This “proofreading” factor can go the opposite way as well. This phenomenon is sometimes known as “drunk texting” when intoxicated, or even emotional texting. Where you basically fire text messages sporadically without a second thought of what you are saying and the effects it will have on the relationships with those people. An act that I have been guilty of to many times to say the least.

As stated before, texts are more personal because people guard their cell phone numbers almost like their social security number. A thought that may seem as an exaggeration but if you think of the attachment that people have to their cell phones it may not be so farfetched at all.

Most people cannot remember life prior to cellphones. They feel naked or lost without them. Whenever you are on public transportation or in a social setting, take a look at how many people are on their phones. This is an indicator of the role that cellphones play in many people’s lives. An indispensable one to say the least. So to have direct access to a persons phone via SMS text gives you direct access to their life.

Text the Romance Back, Can Texts Save Your Relationship?

No time for romance? Relationship expert Michael Fiore says you’re wrong. He can show you how to bring all the romance, love and even passion you’re missing back into your relationship, simply by pushing a few buttons on the cell phone you have in your pocket or purse  right now.


“Digital Telepathy”

Text messages are the closest thing to telepathy we have” says Fiore. “Simply by pushing a few buttons on your cell phone you can create a private little fantasy world between you and your partner … where you can say or do anything without anyone else having a clue.”

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What I Think:Text the Romance Back

This is very true and it is also an original way of looking at something like a text message. I am writing from a male point of view and even the thought of a text as a “fantasy world” where you and your partner can do or say anything you want gives me goosebumps.

At first I was very skeptical of Text the Romance Back. Text messages to make someone love you or make them interested in you again? Sounds too good to be true. But then I decided to get this program for myself and try it out on my romantic interest.

The person I tried a few of the texts on was a 300x250-texting_men_squeezeperson that I was interested in for a long time. She was once attracted to me but in my ordinary fashion; I said and did all the wrong things and successfully made her stop liking me as a romantic interest. We remained friends, although she ignored all romantic advances that I made toward her.

Now I did not use the exact examples that Michael gives in the program. I used the psychology behind the examples that he uses and the principles that he teaches and made it personal to my situation. I think that this is where people interested in the program may feel like it’s fake. They do not apply it to their relationship. There are some examples that will work used exactly as Fiore teaches them but most of them should be altered by you.

He Made Rachael Tingle

Michael Fiore and his Text The Romance Back method have been featured on national television and radio including appearing on “The Rachael Ray Show” on Valentine’s Day, where just one of Michael’s “Magic” texts gave Rachael “tingles” and had the whole audience oohing and ahhing.

Go watch this short video to learn how to use tiny little text messages to bring the spark and electricity back into your relationship (even if your man is a “Romantic Numbskull” or if your woman is an “ice queen.”) It’s worked for thousands of couples around the world, and Michael Fiore guarantees it will work for you.

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